I'm Rabbi David Toledano
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As a child born into a house of rabbis, I can remember how–almost every evening–I would hear shouting and angry words exchanged between a man and woman as they knocked on the door of our house.
This scene would play out fairly consistently: A couple would enter our home like a strong gust of wind. There would be approximately a half hour of belligerence. Then, nearly two hours later, I would peer through the keyhole of my room to see the couple preparing to leave, happy and embracing.
When I asked my father who they were, he would explain that they were a married couple. “Married!?” I wondered, incredulously. “Then why are they screaming at one another?” I eventually came to accept that arguing was simply a part of marriage. But there was one thing I wanted to know, and my curiosity about it troubled me endlessly. I would see the couples arguing. I heard them shouting at each other. I listened to them fighting and being extremely aggressive. I saw and heard all of the loud rattling–and the thing I wondered most was:
As a child born into a house of rabbis, I can remember how–almost every evening–I would hear shouting and angry words exchanged between a man and woman as they knocked on the door of our house.
This scene would play out fairly consistently: A couple would enter our home like a strong gust of wind. There would be approximately a half hour of belligerence. Then, nearly two hours later, I would peer through the keyhole of my room to see the couple preparing to leave, happy and embracing.
When I asked my father who they were, he would explain that they were a married couple. “Married!?” I wondered, incredulously. “Then why are they screaming at one another?” I eventually came to accept that arguing was simply a part of marriage. But there was one thing I wanted to know, and my curiosity about it troubled me endlessly. I would see the couples arguing. I heard them shouting at each other. I listened to them fighting and being extremely aggressive. I saw and heard all of the loud rattling–and the thing I wondered most was:
That they’d enter ready for war but leave lovingly and arm-in-arm?
I was so curious, I searched for this potion everywhere. For several days, whenever my father was out of the house, I would look high and low, checking every possible corner of our living room in an effort to find this elusive potion.
Of course, I never did find it. But realizing that there was no magic potion that could cure the ailments of anger and resentment in marriage only increased my determination to find the real answer. I knew at that time, with perfect clarity, that this was what I wanted to do with my life; to bring back people’s smiles, and to bring back their love. I wanted to bring warmth, peace and harmony to their lives together.
Today, I am a published author, prolific international speaker, executive transformational trainer, relationship expert, and family life coach who specializes in ALL stages of relationships: dating, premarital, marriage, divorce, family and parenting.
My deep understanding of sacred partnerships comes from over 30 years of experience showing individuals, couples, families, and businesses how to achieve concrete and lasting results in their relationships, conducting hundreds of popular seminars, and establishing a wealth of spiritual wisdom gained through rabbinical experience, and a lifelong search for the secret formula to successful, lasting marriages.
